A union between a man and a woman is quite special one, a relationship like no other.
The science of romance reveals no drug is as potent as the chemicals produced in encounters between partners in a love relationship, and, according to recent findings in neoroscience, with all the dopamine and oxytocin that fantasies and yearnings for connection dump into the bloodstream, nothing else can drive otherwise ?normal? people to do crazy things.
What can we extract from this that is positive?
Your couple relationship is a top-notch school, nature?s plan, so to speak, to ?help? you balance your inborn strivings, stretch to love courageously with your whole heart, and grow in wisdom and conscious awareness ? all in one.
For these and other reasons, the anniversary of your relationship deserves a beautiful celebration. Of course, there are the traditional flowers, dinner, candlelight, reciting or renewing your wedding vows, or exciting getaways.
To ensure you connect to the heart of what brings meaning to a lifelong relationship, consider adding one or more of the following five ways to celebrate, alongside your favorites:
1.?Bring to mind the first steps ??
? of your life together. Life consists of a series of milestones. There are fresh starts around every corner. Ponder the firsts. The first meeting. When you first ?knew? your partner was ?the one.? Putting together a home. Becoming parents. Replay these memories.
2.?Recollect a life of growing together ?
? with the challenges you faced. Every year unfolds a unique mix of ups and downs, fresh revelations, novel challenges, and unique resolutions. Remember the times you stood by each other. How you resolved conflict. Reflect on how your growth, as individuals, strengthened your relationship. Reiterate the stories.
3.?Honor the friendship ??
? at the heart of your relationship. What is unique about friendship? Fun! Life is too serious to take too seriously! Fun protects your relationship from the natural wear and tear of daily living. Life is replete with challenges. They?re there to grow us. Never wait to have fun, however. Find joy and ways to appreciate and enjoy one another. Laugh a lot. Get cuddly. Hold hands. Look into each other?s eyes. Make it a regular.
4.?Ponder the lessons learned ?
? together through the years. Relish the gift of what brought you together, as life partners, on this journey called life. Get comfortable with challenges, their customized to optimally grow you. The practice of forgiveness. The choice in how you communicate. The importance of working together as partners. Balancing your giving and receiving. Keep the lessons close to your heart.
5.?Renew your commitment ?
? to one another. A vibrant couple relationship consists of a lifetime of ?I do?s? and not ?I already have?s.? Commitment is choice to nurture the health of your relationship with your self and your partner, especially, in moments when one of both of you seem ?unlovable.?? Be proud of what you have together. No matter how busy life is, make time to assure one another of your commitment to each other?s well being, and to create togetherness moments for a lifetime.
Imagine the possibilities ?
? of what is to come in a future radiant with hope, love and belief in one another and your relationship.
Connecting with your eyes and touch, and affectionately engaging your minds and hearts, are not only romantic. These practices release oxytocin, a hormone known as the ?safety and love? tonic.?Once associated with bonding between mother and child, the release of this hormone inclines you to further connect. In other words, the more you celebrate your love, the more you want to.
In this vast universe, you found one another, and decided to spend the rest of your life together. Make a conscious choice to treat one another as you want to be treated ? ?for a lifetime of present moments.
Notably, oxytocin also nourishes the cells of the brain and body with health. Another reason to celebrate.
Savor what you have on your anniversary and every day of your life together.
Congratulations!
Relationship consultant, author, licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Athena Staik shows clients how to break free of anxiety, addictions, and other emotional blocks, to awaken radiantly healthy lives and relationships. Dr. Staik is currently in private practice in Northern VA, and writing her book, Safe Enough to Love?: Breaking Free of Addictive Love in Couple Relationships. To contact Dr. Staik for information, an appointment or workshop, visit www.drstaik.com, or visit on her Facebook fan page DrAthenaStaikYou can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
????Last reviewed: 26 Sep 2011
APA Reference
Staik, A. (2011). 5 Ways to Celebrate a Beautiful Anniversary. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 26, 2011, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2011/09/5-ways-to-celebrate-a-beautiful-wedding-anniversary/
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